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200 Question BDSM Checklist - Printable Version
This checklist is formatted to print correctly on standard 8-1/2"x11" paper. For personal use only.

Checklists are frequently difficult to complete due to the complex variety to what we enjoy. When we try to fill them out as Tops, Bottoms, Dominants, Submissives, etcetera there is usually confusion over fetishes that aren't physically interactive between partners or over activities that may not clear as to who is giving and who receiving. A sincere effort has been made here to reduce this kind of confusion, but bdsm checklists will never be perfect enough that you won't probably have to go to your partner and confer about how to answer at least one item. Take it as a blessing in disguise - a bdsm checklist is only supposed to get a conversation started. That's what the tool is made for. Remember, it's just a beginning to negotiation, not an end in itself.

Done to/for Self: Read this as how you feel about being on the receiving end of the act.
(As examples, here Whipping would refer to you being whipped, while Massage would mean you're the one on the table.)

Done to/for Others: Read this as how you feel about having someone else receive this act.
(In the examples above, you would be delivering the Whipping, or serving your partner a Massage.)

Tried: Have you tried this? Circle Yes or No for each.

Rating: How does/might this feel to you? Use the chart below as a guide, and circle two answers together if you're "in-between."
/Not ApplicableActions that are physical impossibilities. Draw a slash through the box for these.
?CuriousMaybe you're never tried this, or only once, and want to experience more before deciding how much you like it.
!EssentialThis is something that you can't see yourself enjoying a scene/date/relationship without.
5LoveYou love doing whatever it is.
4LikeYou like doing whatever it is.
3Don't MindYou can take this or leave it, but will probably do it for your partner.
2DislikeYou dislike this but will put up with it for your partner.
1HateYou hate this but will put up with it for your partner.
×Soft LimitSomething you cannot attempt at this time but might be possible in the future.
XHard LimitSomething you will not ever attempt.



Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Anal Play
Acts in which the anus is involved.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating (General)
Acts in which one partner is beaten.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Canes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a cane.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Crops
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a crop.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Floggers
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a flogger.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Hairbrushes
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hairbrush.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Hard
Acts in which one partner is beaten hard.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Paddles
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a paddle.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Soft
Acts in which one partner is beaten softly.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Spanking
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a hand.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Straps
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a strap.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating - Whips
Acts in which one partner is beaten with a whip.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating Location - Back
Beating based acts that focus on the back as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating Location - Bottom
Beating based acts that focus on the bottom as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Beating Location - Chest
Beating based acts that focus on the chest or breasts as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating Location - Feet
Beating based acts that focus on the feet (usually the soles) as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating Location - Genitals
Beating based acts that focus on the genitals as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Beating Location - Legs
Beating based acts that focus on the legs as a target.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bestiality
Sex with animals.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Biting
Acts involving biting one partner with the teeth of the other.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Blindfolds
Acts in which blindfolds are placed over one partner's eyes to remove that sense (and often heighten others).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Branding
Burning the body, often with a specific design, to leave a permanent mark or scar.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Piercing, Permanent
Putting an object through a part of the body for permanent adornment.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Piercing, Play
Exploring the concept of body piercing but in a manner that is temporary.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Saline Injection
Injecting saline in to a part of the body to temporarily engorge it.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Scarification
Deliberately causing scars, often through cutting the skin, for adornment.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Body Modification - Tattooing
Adorning the body by permanently applying ink under the skin.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage (General)
Binding or restricting some or all of the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Bondage - Breast
Binding or restricting the breasts.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Cuffs
Binding or restricting the body (usually the wrists) with [hand]cuffs.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Genital
Binding or restricting the genitals.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Heavy
Heavily binding or restricting the body, usually to the point where no, or next-to no, movement is possible.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Intricate
Intricately binding or restricting some or all of the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Light
Lightly binding or restricting the body. Usually more symbolic than actually restrictive.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Locks
Bondage that involves locks and keys.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Prolonged
Binding or restricting some or all of the body for prolonged periods of time.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Sleeves, Arm
Restricting the movement of the arms by placing them in a confining sleeve.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Sleeves, Leg
Restricting the movement of the legs by placing them in a confining sleeve.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Spreader Bars
Restricting the movement of the legs by connecting them to either end of a bar, usually forcing them open.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Stocks
Restricing movement by placing the wrists and neck (though may involve ankles) through a set of stocks.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Strait Jackets
Binding or restricting the torso and arms by placing them inside a straight jacket.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Bondage - Suspension
Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Suspension, Inverted
Binding or restricting someone so they are suspended above the ground, upside-down.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage - Whole Body
Binding or restricting the whole body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Chain
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with chain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Leather
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with leather.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Rope
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with rope.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Saran Wrap
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with saran wrap (clingfilm).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Scarves
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually silk] scarves.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Bondage Material - Tape
Binding or restricting the body, or parts of, with [usually adhesive] tape.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Breath Play
Also called Asphyxiation. Acts involving restricting or cutting off the supply of oxygen.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Catheters
Inserting a tube in to the urethra to collect urine.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothespins
Using clothespins to pinch parts of the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Chosen For
Having your clothing choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Corsets
Wearing corsets which control the shape of the waist and hips.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Clothing - Full Head Hoods
Wearing hoods that cover the entire head, leaving only small holes for vision, breathing, etc. (if even them).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Harnesses
Wearing clothing that harnesses the body without necessarily covering it.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - High Heels
Wearing high-heeled shoes.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Lingerie
Wearing women's lingerie.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Masks
Wearing masks that cover the face.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Uniforms (General)
Wearing uniforms that have a given significance.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Uniforms, Military
Wearing military uniforms.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing - Uniforms, School
Wearing schoolgirl/schoolboy uniforms.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing Material - Leather
Clothing made out of, or involving, leather.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing Material - PVC
Clothing made out of, or involving, PVC (the shiny plasticy material).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing Material - Rubber
Clothing made out of, or involving, rubber or latex.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Clothing Material - Sheer
Clothing made out of, or involving, sheer (transparent or translucent) material.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Collars - Private
Wearing a "slave" collar in private.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Collars - Public
Wearing a "slave" collar in public.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Crawling
The act of crawling on all fours to denote submission.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Cutting
Deliberately cutting the skin.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Dilation - Anal
Deliberately stretching the anus open.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Dilation - Vaginal
Deliberately stretching the vagina open.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Discipline
Submitting to, or receiving, the [often corporal] discipline of another.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Drinking - Blood
Drinking blood.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Drinking - Semen
Drinking semen.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Drinking - Urine
Drinking urine.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Electricity
Using electricity for sensation or pain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Enemas
Applying liquid (traditionally warm water) in to the lower intestine, via a tube. Often to induce uncontrolled, or hard to control, excretion.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Examination - Physical
Having your body physically examined and, often, appraised. Sometimes this includes medical examination roleplays though, here, that is listed as Roleplay - Medical.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Exhibitionism - Forced
Exposing your body to others, nominally against your will, at the will of another.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Exhibitionism - Voluntary
Willingly exposing your body to others.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Face Slapping
Slapping the face, usually with an open hand, to cause pain or denote position.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Fisting - Anal
Placing an entire hand (the term "fist" is often an exageration) inside the anus.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Fisting - Vaginal
Placing an entire hand (the term "fist" is often an exageration) inside the vagina.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Food - Chosen For
Having your food choices made for you, usually without the ability to appeal.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Food - From Body
Eating food from another person's body. Either eating it directly from them or using them as a platter.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Food - From Bowl
Eating food directly from a bowl, like an animal such as a cat or dog.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Food - From Hand
Eating food directly from another person's hand.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Gags (General)
Devices used to limit, or prevent, verbal communication.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Gags - Ball
A type of gag that uses a ball to effectively block any verbal communication.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Gags - Bit
A type of gag that uses a bar that goes across the mouth, much like a horse's "bit".
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Gags - Ring
A type of gag that uses a ring to force the mouth open while providing access to the, now undefendable, mouth.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Gags - Tape
Using adhesive tape across the mouth to create a gag.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Given Away (General)
Being given, at a partner's whim, to another person, usually temporarily.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Given Away - Auctions
Being given to another person as the result of a [slave] auction.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Given Away - Permanent
Being given away, at a partner's whim, to another person, permanently.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Hand Jobs
Pleasuring someone else's genitals with your hand.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Heterosexuality - Forced
Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, nominally against your will.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Heterosexuality - Voluntary
Sexual acts with members of the opposite sex, willingly.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Homosexuality - Forced
Sexual acts with members of the same sex, nominally against your will.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Homosexuality - Voluntary
Sexual acts with members of the same sex, willingly.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Humiliation - Private
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in a private setting.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Humiliation - Public
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, in front of others.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Humiliation - Verbal
Acts in which you are humiliated, degrated, or shamed, through either the words of someone else (such as name calling) or your own words.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Including Others
Acts in which other people, from outside your immediate relationship, are included.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Kneeling
The act of kneeling to denote submission.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Leashes
Wearing a leash, attached to a collar (or other convenient point).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Lecturing
An exposition of a given subject for the purpose of instruction or reprimand.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Licking
Using your tongue on another person's body [or, often, anything they require].
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Massage
Rubbing another person's body for their relaxation.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Masturbation - Forced
Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, nominally against your will.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Masturbation - Voluntary
Pleasuring your own genitals, with your hand, willingly.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Nipple Clamps
Placing clamps on the nipples to cause pain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Nipple Play
Acts that focus on the nipples.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Nipple Weights
Applying weights to the nipples to stretch them, generally to cause pain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Nudity - Forced
Periods of time spent without clothing, nominally against you will.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Nudity - Voluntary
Periods of time spent without clothing.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Orgasm - On Command
Having to orgasm on the command of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Orgasm Control
Giving control of when and how orgasms are experienced - and when they are not - to another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Orgasm Denial
Losing the right to have orgasms for an [often protracted] period of time.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Pain (General)
Acts involving physical pain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Pain - Heavy
Acts involving a very large degree of physical pain.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Pain - Light
Acts involving some physical pain, yet without too great an intensity - being more symbolic than serious.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Phone Sex
Having sexually explicit phone conversations, usually involving performing sexual acts at the same time.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Rape - Fantasy
Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Rape - Fantasy, Gang
Acts that explore being sexually used, nominally against your will, by more than one other person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Recorded Scenes - Photographs, Private
Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Recorded Scenes - Photographs, Shared
Having photographs taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Recorded Scenes - Video, Private
Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, for private viewing only.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Recorded Scenes - Video, Shared
Having video taken of you, either naked or indulging in a sexual act, to be shared with others.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay (General)
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Age
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on being a different age (such as babies or naughty young girls).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Education
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on a scholastic teacher/student setting.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Interrogation
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on interrogations where one person is the interrogator and the other the subject.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Roleplay - Kidnapping
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on one partner being kidnapped.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Medical
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles such as Doctor/Patient.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Pig
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pig.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Pony
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a pony.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Prison
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the prison world such as Sadistic Jailer/Vulnerable Inmate
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Puppy
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a puppy or adult dog.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Religious
Scenes in which the participants take on and act out roles based on the religious world such as confessionals or Bishop/Nun.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Roleplay - Whore
Scenes in which the subject takes on and acts out a role based on being a male or female prostitute, selling themselves to another person for sex.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play (General)
Acts involving the senses and strong sensations.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Deprivation
Acts involving depriving the subject of their senses (often to heighten the remaining ones).
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Fire
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by fire and heat.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Hair Pulling
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hair pulled.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Sensation Play - Hot Wax
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having hot candle wax dripped on to or applied to the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Ice
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using ice or other cold items on the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Needle
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by using needles on the body, either scratching with them, or poking them.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Scratching
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by being scratched.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Suction
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by having suction applied to the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Teasing
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by teasing the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sensation Play - Tickling
Acts involving the sensations and apprehensions caused by tickling the body.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving (General)
Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own. For example, a maid or a sexual servant.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Art
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a (usually immobile) piece of artwork such as a statue.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Ashtray
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, using a part of your body as a receptacle for their cigarette or cigar ash.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Chauffer
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as their formal driver.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Serving - Dancer
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a dancer. For example, a belly dancer or stripper.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Following Orders
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as they give you specific formal orders to follow.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Forced
Serving another person in specific ways, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, nominally forced against your will.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Furniture
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as an immobile piece of furniture. For example, on all fours as a table or a footstool.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Housework
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, performing household chores.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Maid
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, as a maid. For example, serving tea while wearing a uniform.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Serving - Sexually
Serving another person, putting their pleasure ahead of your own, in whatever sexual way pleases them.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Anal
Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your anus.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Cunnilingus
Sexually stimulating the vagina with a mouth/tongue.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Denial
Going without sex, or sexual gratification, often at another person's command.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Fellatio
Sexually stimulating the penis with a mouth/tongue.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Group
Sexual intercourse with more than one partner.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Sex - Penetration, Double
Sexual intercourse in which two orrifices (mouth, vagina, anus) are filled.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Penetration, Triple
Sexual intercourse in which three orrifices (mouth, vagina, anus) are filled.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Rimming
Sexually stimulating the anus with a mouth/tongue.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Threesome
Sexual intercourse with two other people.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Vaginal
Sexual intercourse involving a penis entering your vagina.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex - Vanilla
Traditional sexual intercourse, without involving any kinks.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Beads
Having a string of connected beads (or balls) inserted in to your anus or vagina and then pulled out.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Butt Plugs
Wearing a "plug" inserted in to your anus.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Dildos
Using and/or being penetrated with a non-vibrating artificial phallus.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Eggs
Variously known as Ben-Wa Balls, Love Eggs, etc. Two balls made to be vaginally inserted which vibrate when you move or are battery powered to vibrate.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Public (Under Clothes)
Going out in public with a sex toy (such as a butt plug) in your body, under your clothing.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Strap On
Using and/or being penetrated with an artificial phallus that fastens about a partner's waist.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Sex Toys - Vibrators
Using and/or being penetrated with a vibrating toy, usually an artificial phallus.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Shaving - Body
Removing all traces of hair below the neck.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Shaving - Genital
Removing all traces of hair from the genitals.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Shaving - Genital, Styling
Shaving or trimming pubic hair, removing some but not all of it in a given style.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Shaving - Head
Removing all traces of hair from the head.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Showers - Brown
Defecating on another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Showers - Golden
Urinating on another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Speculums - Anal
Using a medical tool to dilate (stretch open) the entrance to the anus, providing access within.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Speculums - Vaginal
Using a medical tool to dilate (stretch open) the entrance to the vagina, providing access within.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Swapping (Partner)
Sex between two or more couples where members of each couple exchange partners and have sex with them.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Voyeurism
Watching someone, often without their knowledge, in a situation with sexual connotations.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Worship - Boot
Worshiping the boots of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Worship - Bottom
Worshiping the bottom of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Worship - Breast
Worshiping the breasts of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit

Activity To/For Self To/For Others
DoneRate DoneRate
Worship - Foot
Worshiping the feet of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Worship - Genital
Worshiping the genitals of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Worship - High Heel
Worshiping the high-heeled shoes of another person.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Wrestling
Wrestling with another person, overpowering them or being overpowered.
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
Yes
No
Essential   Curious
5    4    3    2    1
Soft Limit   Hard Limit
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